Parenting is a process of taking care of your children from infancy to adulthood. It doesn’t matter whether you have a biological relationship with the child or not. But some parents care just for the sake of it. This kind of parenting is known as Uninvolved parenting or sometimes referred to as neglectful parenting.
These types of parents don’t respond to their child’s needs and desires rather they only care about food, clothing, and shelter. For example: In the movie, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone, the first of its franchise, Harry Potter (the main character) was treated the same by his parents. He was a part of the family but his desires and needs don’t matter to them.
Let’s discuss some signs of uninvolved parenting:
1. Focused on their own things
Whether it is their office work or their social life, uninvolved parents focus on their own thing. They hardly take interest in their children’s wellbeing or concerned about their studies. Work comes first for them instead of their children. They hardly take any time out to know about their kid’s activities and schedules.
2. Keeping distance from their children
The emotional connection is always a missing factor in uninvolved parenting. Parents don’t guide or nurture their children often and keep themselves busy in their own stuff.
3. Little or no love and affection
As there is no interaction, the kind of love and affection that a parent must show towards their children gets missing here. Not showing enough warmth to the kids can badly affect their mentality and their attitude towards life.
There can be 2 reasons why parents involve in this kind of parenting style:
1. Raised in the same way
Parents who are indulged in this style of parenting were often raised by the same uninvolved parents. They have been through this already, so they think of doing the same with their own children. They treat their children the same way they were treated in their childhood.
2. Busy in their own work
Some parents can’t find the time or they are busy with their own problems such as depression, workload, etc. So, they fail to spend time and getting involved with their children.
Now, let’s discuss some uninvolved parenting examples.
Examples of Uninvolved parenting style
Example 1: When your child went to school and returned after having a very tiring day. You don’t even ask him how was your day and what you did in the school.
Example 2: Not helping your child in his school assignment, projects, and homework.
Example 3: When your child asks for the food after playing football or any other sports game, you don’t even acknowledge and ignore what he/she wants.
Example 4: Not taking out time from your busy schedule to got out with your child and spend quality time together.
Now coming to the effects, there can be negative and positive effects both, so let’s consider uninvolved parenting effects one by one.
1. As the child is left alone to by his/her parents, he will get to know how to manage himself without any guidance.
2. The kid will counter problems and will find solutions on its own. This will make him mentally strong from the start and will help him to tackle future problems.
No matter how much benefits this parenting style involves, but the negative part will always outweigh the better one.
1. One of the major disadvantages this parenting style involves is that the kids who suffer will most likely adopt this type of parenting with their children too. This will most likely continue with their generation.
2. Children will have a difficult time forming an emotional connection with their loved ones.
3. Alcohol, drugs, substance abuse will become very common among the kids.
How to stop neglectful parenting?
1. If you had ever found yourself in a position that you are practicing a neglectful parenting style, you can change it now, don’t let your child suffer for this.
2. One way is to start spending time with your children so that they don’t feel neglected. Talk to them about their day, school life, etc.
3. Give them surprise gifts, go for movie nights, restaurants, holidays, etc.
4. Don’t restrict yourself just by asking them, you can also tell about your life, what you did, how to overcome difficulties, etc. Make sure they get engaged in the conversation.
5. Keep an eye on their mental health, depression, stress, etc. Approach a professional doctor, counselor if your child is facing any problem.
6. If you still feel that you are following the same style, you can even refer to a professional for help.
By doing all of this, you will feel that you are on the right path of making their future bright.