Parenting Lesson 5 - Trimester 2

Topics covered in this lesson-

  1. How much weight gain is okay during pregnancy?

  2. Preparing yourself and your partner about coming child.

  3. How to take care of stretch marks in your pregnancy?

  4. What precautions to be taken to avoid premature birth?

How much weight gain is okay during pregnancy?

During pregnancy, in general, you should gain about 1-2 kg during the first three months you're pregnant and 500g a week during the rest of your pregnancy

Over the full 37 weeks of pregnancy an Underweight woman should gain 12 to 18 kg. And an overweight woman may need to gain only 7 to 11 kg during pregnancy.

If you don’t gain the recommended weight during pregnancy then it may lead to delivering a baby who is too small and they will have difficulty in breastfeeding and will have a greater risk of disease. It may lead to development delays.

On the other side If you gain more than the recommended weight during pregnancy then you will deliver a baby who is too large which will lead to delivery complications and cesarean delivery and obesity during childhood.

Gaining more than the recommended amount of weight can also increase the amount of weight you hold on to after pregnancy, which can lead to obesity.

Preparing yourself and your partner about coming child.

Having a baby can feel like a huge leap into the unknown. It's hard to predict all the ways your life will change, but one thing's for certain—your life will change. The sense of uncertainty from having a baby can cause feelings of anxiety and stress. Here are some way that will help you and your partner to prepare for the coming baby, Have a plan

To ease some of that new baby stress, having a parenting checklist in place well before the baby comes will help make the most of your baby's first year.

Develop a budget, pay off debt, and set aside 3 to 6 months of expenses, if possible, so you have a financial cushion. Talk with your employer about if and when you will return to work. It's important to prepare for a change in managing your work-life balance.

Talk with your partner about household tasks and develop a schedule for completing those tasks, such as grocery shopping, laundry, or housecleaning. Having a plan can ease many of your worries, giving you a sense of control and competence. Of course, flexibility is important too.

During the first few weeks after your baby arrives, schedules will probably go out the window as you adjust to your new baby. Having those schedules in place, though, will help you return to a comfortable routine more quickly.

Cut yourself some slack

Most first-timers worry about their ability to parent effectively, but here's a little secret: you are going to make some parenting mistakes. You are not going to be a perfect parent, because the perfect parent does not exist.

Fortunately, children don't need perfect parents. They need committed, loving parents who are trying to do their best—parents who acknowledge when they've messed up and kept on trying. Parenting is a learning curve—sometimes a steep one—and it's okay if you don't have it all figured out. Babies are remarkably resilient and your baby will be just fine.

Manage relationship stress.

The changes of pregnancy and parenthood can cause relationship stress as you try to sort out your new life and roles. Be patient with yourself and your partner. Spend time together and talk honestly about your hopes and fears. Accept those inevitable differences in temperament and priorities, which often become more obvious as you prepare for parenting.

Use your support network. It's a natural inclination to focus inward as you prepare for childbirth, and you might feel too tired after a long day to socialize, but don't forego the company of friends entirely. Your family and friends can be a source of nurturing support, both now and after the baby arrives. Too tired at night to get together? How about a weekend brunch or a Saturday afternoon movie? Maintain relationships and be sure to ask for help as the big day draws near.

How to take care of stretch marks in your pregnancy?

Stretch marks are actually tiny tears in the supporting layers of tissue under your skin as it's pulled tight to the limit during pregnancy.

Try as you might avoid stretch marks, there's no proven way to treat them or stop them from zigzagging their way across your body. So don’t spend a ton of money on unproven therapies. But there are some obvious methods to minimize the stretch marks after birth,


no stretch mark cream is a miracle cure. If nothing else, moisturizing daily will help with the dryness and itchy skin associated with pregnancy.

Eating plenty of vitamin C-rich foods may also help keep your skin toned and less subject to stretch marks. Nourish your skin from the inside.

Watch your weight

Keep an eye on that scale during pregnancy and put your pounds on slowly and steadily instead of in big spurts. Keep in mind that eating for two doesn't mean literally eating twice as much, so when possible, try to follow the general recommendations for caloric intake during pregnancy. Wait it out.

Of course, you wanted a solution yesterday, but hold off for now. Your dermatologist can offer treatments such as Retin-A or laser therapy after you give birth. Neither is safe during pregnancy, however, and the stretching ain't over till it's over.

At the end of the day, you should bear those marks in pride. There is no overnight cure so with time they will fade. You have to be patient.

What precautions to be taken to avoid premature birth?

There are many reasons for premature birth. They are,

Mental Health

Women who are stressed or depressed seem to be at higher risk of giving birth prematurely, but it's not clear why. It could be because they are less likely to lead healthy lifestyles. Mental wellbeing is difficult to assess - not least because we all have different stress thresholds - but some factors linked with psychological distress have been linked with premature birth too. So during pregnancy, you should always pay attention to your mental state and if you are feeling not okay then you should always speak up to your partner or see a professional psychologist.

Fight The Influenza

It is a commonly known fact that women who catch the flu more consistently are at a higher risk for premature labor. Ensure you get your shots on time, follow your doctor’s recommendations for when you have the flu, and make sure you get adequate rest. Over-exerting yourself when you have the flu can be dangerous, and in some cases, trigger labor far too early.

Take Your Vitamins

One of the most overlooked reasons for premature labor is vitamin deficiency. Doctors recommend taking prenatal vitamin capsules that contain folic acid to prevent miscarriages or preterm labor. You must ensure that you take regular doses of the prescribed vitamins to avoid chances of premature labor.

Don’t Smoke

Smoking while you are pregnant will harm your growing baby, and increase the likelihood of problems in your pregnancy. Smoking has been linked with premature labor, and the more you smoke the more likely you are to have your baby prematurely.

Women who quit smoking during pregnancy can lower the risk of premature delivery.

Avoid Alcohol

It is a commonly known fact that alcohol can harm your pregnancy and put you at high risk for preterm labor. Giving up completely is safest, but if not, alcohol intake should be limited to one or two units once or twice a week.

Check and Maintain Your Recommended Weight

Doctors will advise that you stick to a prescribed diet to make sure that your health is in an optimal condition. Too much weight gain will increase the chances of conditions like gestational diabetes and preeclampsia, which are known to cause early labor. Being underweight can also cause early labor.


Almost every doctor will recommend exercising during pregnancy. This is primarily due to the fact that exercise improves blood circulation, keeps your heart healthy, and helps maintain fetal health, and prevent premature births.

Unless you've been advised otherwise due to specific health problems, it's a good idea to do something active every day like walking.

Talk to a Prenatal Specialist

Talking to a prenatal specialist can help you educate yourself about the most common causes of preterm labor. Understanding the root causes can help you plan your labor a lot better. Make sure you ask them as many questions as you need to understand the causes.