Parenting Lesson 25 - Language development of your child

Topics covered in this lesson-

  1. Which language I should speak my child with?

  2. How to help your child read a book?

  3. How to help your child start writing?

  4. When to start reading to a child?

  5. What type of books I should read to my child?

  6. How to handle speech delay in children?

Which language I should speak my child with?

It is usually recommended that you speak your first language to your kids. Your first language is not always the first language you've ever learned to speak. You may not have spoken the language since childhood, for example, and have forgotten some or most of it. Therefore, the first language in which you are most assured and fluent; your dominant language.

The dominant language is the language you understand best. It's the language you're most comfortable using, and you can communicate effectively. For several, it's the first language they've learned to speak or the language they use most frequently.

Having said all this, if you're comfortable speaking more than one language and can do so fluently congratulations! You have the choice of choosing which language you want to speak to your child, but do not underestimate the value of speaking to your child in a language that is close to your heart.

How to help your child read a book?

10 tips for inspiring your child to learn

1. Make time to learn. If your child has a jam-packed schedule and reading between gymnastics and band practice, reading can seem like an unwelcome activity. Enable reading to be a relaxing and enjoyable time, free of pressure.

2. Set aside daily read-to-read time for your children. Choose a selection of high-quality literature that appeals to your child's age and interests. Audiobooks are another perfect opportunity for a reluctant reader. And don't give up reading out loud as your kids get older—no one is too old to read out loud.

3. Make sure the reading content isn't beyond your child's reading capacity. The curiosity may be there, but if the book is hard to read, the enthusiasm of your child will disappear.

4.Create a comfortable reading corner. A special reading room might be all the motivation your child wants to calm down and spend time with a good book!

5. Look for a range of reading materials. Kids sometimes gravitate to the fiction shelves in the library, but don't stop there. There are several other genres to consider: joke books, cookbooks, how-to books, graphic novels and biographies are all great non-fiction choices. And children's magazines can be a perfect way out of the box to inspire a child to read.

6. Try a friendly reading with your struggling reader. Buddy reading will help develop a child's fluency and make him feel more comfortable reading on his own.

7. Have your reluctant reader read simple photo books to younger siblings. This offers excellent practice, but it doesn't feel like a task.

8. Let humour work out its magic! Choose a funny book at your child's reading level and read the first chapter aloud. Quit reading, then. If your child wants to find out what happens next, he's going to have to read it himself!

9. Show the enjoyment of reading. When your children observe that you enjoy reading, they are more likely to grow a love of reading themselves.

10. Use your public library. Build your home library. Keep your books open. When your child decides that he or she wants to read, you want to make sure he or she has a book at his fingertips.

How to help your child start writing?

The school is fitted with qualified teachers who will teach the child how to draw and write when your child starts schooling. However, even before your child begins formal education, you can give them a head start by teaching some basics about writing. Here are the various methods of teaching a child to write letters:

1. Don't teach how to write only because it's important, make it fun: start by teaching them how to make random signs using slate and chalk or magnetic doodle pads. Another enjoyable way to get a child involved in writing is by using sand, salt or wheat flour to draw random signs and letters and inspire them to obey.

2. Strengthen your palms: strengthening your hand muscles is a significant step in getting your child to write more and more. Playing with stuff like clay or play-box and holding various things with your hands will strengthen your hand muscles.

3. Ensure that the grip is good: Offer your child a crayon or pencil that matches their palms comfortably and gives them a strong grip. This will make writing easier and also ensure that their handwriting is fine. The use of golf pencils can help.

4. Enable them to scribble: do not discourage your children from scribbling. Enable them to start scribbling as soon as they start to hold objects. Seeing items emerge out of their hands on a document will excite and inspire the child to scribble more. You should guide them on how to write their name, one letter at a time.

5. Show enthusiasm and excitement when writing: Children prefer to do something more vigorously when people around them are entertained by what they do. Show joy by laughing and clapping every time your child scribbles. This is going to make them happier and inspire them to write more.

7. Limit their contact with devices such as cell phones and tablets: While our lifestyle today is dominated by technology and it is difficult to keep a child completely away from it it is worth restricting their exposure to digital enhancements.

8. Have your child write on top of the letters you have written: Tracing a letter will make it much easier for the child to understand the contours and curves of the alphabet. Write down a couple of alphabets and get your child to write on top of them. If they get acquainted and get a hang of the letters, make them write without the pre-written letters.

9. Give them the freedom to write what they want, and don't worry about writing backwards: Many children start writing backwards at the beginning. The easiest way to correct them is to get a black border slate and mark the top left corner as the starting point. This will ensure that they write in the right direction. Also do not prevent them from writing what they wish, since this would hinder and discourage them from writing. Teach how to write things slowly and step by step.

10. Teach them how to identify letters: Surround your child with alphabet shapes in the form of magnets, puzzles and drawings. Spell out letters to them when pointing out the letter in question. This will allow them to associate the letter with its tone, thereby fulfilling an essential prerequisite for learning how to write.

When to start reading to a child?

It’s never too soon. Your baby recognized and learned your voice in the womb itself, and he will definitely like to listening to you talk, read and sing from the time of birth itself. Many researches also suggest that I you start talking and reading to your child it will impact your child positively.

Its given that your new born baby will not understand your talking or singing but different rhythms and sounds will help to stimulate an develop his listening capability. And this will also help him later in the life.

It doesn’t matter how old your baby is, reading regular will help him understand that books are fun. Also reading books to your child will provide more time to spend with your child which will also bring a warm feeling of togetherness. Also reading to your child from early will help your child in overall development.

What type of books I should read to my child?

Your voice and closeness to you, are most important and favorite things for your baby. Seeing you reading and hearing your reading will be even more fascinating to him.

Start reading to your baby from a simple and basic book. You can also go for eBooks they are similar to printed books. Just one thing should be kept in mind that babies have tendency to grab books and put them in mouth, so you should be carefully about the electronic gadgets.

However, modern eBooks often have bells and whistles, such as buttons for you and your baby to press. These features of eBooks can be lot of fun for your baby and nothing wrong in it if they are used once a while. But many researches suggest that those exciting features can distract your baby what’s going in the story, so printed books should be preferred for this purpose.

When it comes to audiobooks, its okay to listen to them when you are really busy, or play one for your baby when you are seriously busy. But he/she will really love to listening stories from you your partner. Afterall, you both are your baby’s favorite people. Even you can try to record your voices and can play it back to your child.

How to handle speech delay in children?

A normal child of age 2 years can speak 50 words and can use them in form of two- and three-word sentences. When they reach the age of 3 then their vocabulary increases to 1000 words and can use them in three- or four-word sentences.

If your child is not showing these characteristics then your child might be having a speech delay. But do not worry, development guidelines are just general prescriptions to observe the development of your child, as very child grows at its ow rate.

If your child is having a speech delay, its not always true that your child has some problem. Your child can be a late bloomer, and you can hear him/her in soon time. A speech delay also can be due to some kind of hearing loss or some kind of neurological or developmental disorder.

But there is no need to worry many speech delays can be treated effectively. But early interventions will e better for your child. Also, you should not stop to reading to him and also talk to him/her in sign languages.